I am starting this thread on behalf of a "single" friend of mine. He hasn't been able to hold on to a woman that he wants for very long & he seems only to be able to attract overbearing nut jobs who want all of his time & hate his friends. He is a very nice guy (which could be his problem) & he has VERY good credit. So it's not financial or the fact that he's a jerk.
His latest relationship, which ended abruptly last night, is a great example of what's been going on in his life. He met a young woman while he was working. She gave him her number & they dated for about a month. She then goes off out of town & has some time to "think". She then calls him & tells him she doesn't think they're right for each other. He was devastated because before this, she was all about "I'm so glad I met you" talk.
A few days later she gets together with him & they decide to keep going on with the relationship. Last night we all get together at a mutual friend's house for his birthday & all seemed to be going well. An hour after the party my buddy calls me & tells me it's over. Even he is confused.
Does anybody have any tips for him? I'm married & never had to deal with these kind of "Woman Problems" during my dating experiences. Not that I'm a ladies' man or anything, but, I guess I was just lucky.
"I can't live the buttoned down life like all of you! I want it all: the terrifying lows, the dizzying highs, the creamy middles! Sure, I might offend a few of the blue-noses with my cocky stride and musky odor - oh, I'll never be the darling of the so-called 'City Fathers' who cluck their tongues, stroke their beards, and talk about what's to be done with this Monkey_Boy?!"
Posts: 2561 | Location: Springfield, Oh! Hi ya, Maude! | Registered: 01 January 2007
I would tell him to keep trying and to be careful about jumping into serious relationships right away.
I prefer dating myself. It lets me know who I'm dealing with and gives me options. If after a few months I can still tolerate a person I may consider a possible relationship.
Obviously she wasn't right for him, and she probably saved him a lot of headaches by finally breaking up with him. He wouldn't want to end up marrying someone like that.
There's nothing your friend can do except to be himself and be patient. It's tempting to "settle," but you need to be 100% sure you've found the right one. He can be thankful that these relationships ended when they did.
I just thought I should come back and let ya know that he's found his true love in a childhood friend of ours. They lost touch for several years, and she suddenly turned up and let him know that she'd always been in love with him. What's crazy is he's ALWAYS had this wild crush on her, but he never told her because he didn't wanna ruin their friendship! How's that for messed up? Sounds like a romantic-comedy!
"I can't live the buttoned down life like all of you! I want it all: the terrifying lows, the dizzying highs, the creamy middles! Sure, I might offend a few of the blue-noses with my cocky stride and musky odor - oh, I'll never be the darling of the so-called 'City Fathers' who cluck their tongues, stroke their beards, and talk about what's to be done with this Monkey_Boy?!"
Posts: 2561 | Location: Springfield, Oh! Hi ya, Maude! | Registered: 01 January 2007
I don't really have women problems. It's hard to have them when no women think of you romantically at all.
I mean, that in itself is a problem, but I don't have problems with any one woman or another.
------ Aren't there any girls out their who like good music? I need to and want to meet them. My favorite bands are Overkill River, The Nife, Songs:Ohio, and Nuetral Milk Hotel. Please let me know if your into indy music and like to go to show's and drink beer's and makeout.
Posts: 2264 | Location: ATL-abouts. | Registered: 24 October 2006
Originally posted by Monkey_Boy: I just thought I should come back and let ya know that he's found his true love in a childhood friend of ours. They lost touch for several years, and she suddenly turned up and let him know that she'd always been in love with him. What's crazy is he's ALWAYS had this wild crush on her, but he never told her because he didn't wanna ruin their friendship! How's that for messed up? Sounds like a romantic-comedy!
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Originally posted by Chamberk: I don't really have women problems. It's hard to have them when no women think of you romantically at all.
I mean, that in itself is a problem, but I don't have problems with any one woman or another.
What he said. To kind of fuse them, this girl I've liked for a little while, I hung out at her apartment recently, and she asked "when's the last time you cuddled with a girl Shaunda?" "Uh...about four years ago?" "Aw, then you're cuddling with me tonight" /happy Just when things were starting to look hopeless again, Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind came on today, and it still works like a catalyst for me (score another point for that wonderful, life-affirming film.) I tried calling this girl while the spontaneity was still fresh, and I was gonna spill the beans to her, but she didn't answer :/ I've been wanting to hold off telling her in case it changed things between us, but you get these reminders of how short life is sometimes, you know?
Hearing about your friend makes me happy though Monkey_Boy, in a middle school girl kinda way. And Chamberk, best of luck to you buddy!
My situation's just pissing me off right now because a friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years recently. I had feelings for her before they got together, but put them away when I saw that they were happy together. Now she's single again... and I'm on the other side of the goddamn planet.
------ Aren't there any girls out their who like good music? I need to and want to meet them. My favorite bands are Overkill River, The Nife, Songs:Ohio, and Nuetral Milk Hotel. Please let me know if your into indy music and like to go to show's and drink beer's and makeout.
Posts: 2264 | Location: ATL-abouts. | Registered: 24 October 2006
Originally posted by Jglass: Shaunda got teabagged!
I can't begin to tell you how funny he thought that was.
So I told this girl, and she said she liked me too, but she didn't think it would work out - neither one of us has a car and she's always busy with work or school or her many other friends, and I'm maybe leaving town soon for school myself. Ob-la-di, ob-la-da, life goes ooooooooooooon brah! La la how the life goes on! But I think we can be pretty good friends down the line, and if it just keeps going the way its been going it'll be great. But it would be even better if there were kissies. Just sayin'.
Nhaz, you don't want to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's really hoping makes it happen. You've gotta be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know. The guy you're not sure whether or not you like yet. You're not sure where he's coming from. Okay? You're a bad man, Nhaz.
In all seriousness, that line actually holds some truth. The way too nice "friend" guy never gets the girl. Even if you do get the girl, now you've set an impossible precedence to live up to. Don't be that guy, brother.
Posts: 1376 | Location: Valparaiso, IN | Registered: 01 July 2006
Originally posted by less_success: Nhaz, you don't want to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's really hoping makes it happen. You've gotta be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know. The guy you're not sure whether or not you like yet. You're not sure where he's coming from. Okay? You're a bad man, Nhaz.
In all seriousness, that line actually holds some truth. The way too nice "friend" guy never gets the girl. Even if you do get the girl, now you've set an impossible precedence to live up to. Don't be that guy, brother.
Heh, thanks for the concern. Actually though, I decided next time we're together, if she's still single I'm gonna make my move. She said she didn't think a relationship between us could work and she's right in a more conventional relationship way. But what I really meant was "what we're doing now, but naughtier."
But while I'm here less_success...I hate to say it but I have a hard time keeping a lot of people here straightened out in my head. But you're one of a handful I early on got pretty unique and really liked. I think because I noticed we agreed on some really important things, haha. Just thought I'd let you know.
